Steps to Improve Your Self-Worth to Get Your Twin Flame Back


If you’re anything like me, you’re well familiar with the Law of Attraction.

Maybe you’re trying your hardest to think positive and only say YES to what you want.

You’ve learned that focusing on the negative will attract more negatives.

So in your love life, you try to “see the bigger picture,” focus on the light, and give second chances if your twin flame disappoints you.

But how well is that working for you?

What if your focus on the bright side in every situation, is exactly the reason you haven’t attracted your Twin Flame yet?

What if the key to getting what you want is… saying NO to what you don’t want?

One of the most overlooked, but most powerful tools to attract what you want in your love life is STRONG BOUNDARIES.

Having strong boundaries gets you on the highest possible frequency.

This is because your boundaries reflect your self-worth.

The concept of “saying more YES’s to achieve more success” is trendy right now.

Just as important is learning to say NO to what no longer serves you.

Happiness means learning to say NO to things and people that stress you out.

The Law of Attraction will manifest what energy you are sending out.

Your true beliefs about what you deserve, will make the difference between a blissful love life, vs. one that’s a struggle.

The Universe is like a restaurant.

It’s continually sending dishes out to us.

Imagine that you are sitting down at a dinner table like Belle in Disney’s “Beauty and the Beast” and the delectable dishes you’re receiving are… men.

If dating feels like choosing, tasting and trying out different kind of exciting desserts and dishes all trying to get your attention, you’re on the right frequency.

If you start to wonder if the waiter has completely forgotten your order, or if dating feels like you are served a small number of tasteless dishes or even crumbs, you are most likely on the waiting frequency.

The waiting frequency means you have your life on hold and are waiting for things to magically change, without actively creating change in yourself. 

If you don’t speak up about the burned steak, the too-salted sauce, the hair in your dessert or the bad service you got, the universe will continue sending them out again and again…

It took me years to figure out that self-respect is the key to get what you want – but once I understood that, my love life changed on a dime.

A bad date or a toxic relationship is not the Universe’s way of punishing you.

Instead it’s a opportunity for you to see that you deserve better so you can be attracting, getting and keeping that amazing love life you so truly deserve.

So, how do you feel worthy enough not to settle for crumbs?


Step #1: Find Your Basic Needs

Write down everything you want in your Twin Flame relationship on a paper – and please don’t take this process lightly!

This will give you a clearer picture of what you really want, which is crucial to help you understand what you don’t want.

Writing down this down will make it easier for you to say NO to men who don’t match your needs.

What does your fairytale look like?

What are your basic needs and wildest dreams?

Do you want marriage and children, or do you want to explore the world with him? 

Or do you want both kids and travel?

How does your Twin Flame talk to you and treat you?

What activities are you doing together and where are you living?

In short – what do you need from a partner to feel completely happy, joyful and at-ease?

Step2 #2: Don’t Compromise 

Don’t be afraid to dump a guy immediately if he is treating you poorly or doesn’t fit in with your values.

Compromising doesn’t help you find your Twin Flame, and you will notice that there are very strong energies when you’re heading straight to your goal and not settling for anything less.

So much heartbreak could be avoided if we trusted our own intuition and our ability to catch early warning signs.

A man will be a toxic choice for you if he can’t give you what you want.

If you want a big family and marriage and choose to date a man that doesn’t want children because you hope that he might change, you will face a big problem in the future.

You can’t change anyone – especially not a man – and by choosing to date a man who can’t give you what you need, you’re telling the universe you don’t deserve better.

Remember he is not a bad man for not giving you what you want – he is just not your Twin Flame.

Step #3: Love Your Anger 

When you are feeling angry about something a man is doing or not doing, hug yourself and fall completely in love with that feeling.

Feel your anger pulsing inside your body, and see the red powerful energy in your stomach.

By accepting every part of you, even the icky parts, you will reach the highest state of self love – and therefore the highest vibrational frequency. 

If you’ve experienced abuse or trauma, you might have learned to hide your anger because you fear something bad happening.

But there’s a big difference between being angry, and being angry all the time.

If you allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling, and not categorize it as good or bad, you will instantly feel more peaceful.

Anger goes hand-in-hand with your SELF RESPECT. 

Allowing this powerful emotion to take place inside you will make you feel worthier – and you’ll stop settling for crumbs.

Step #4: Speak Up

I know the icky stomach feeling that can come from just thinking about standing up for yourself.

But when you push down your anger and hide it behind a happy smile and positive affirmations, your energy is inauthentic.

He will feel that something isn’t right when he is with you – and this makes it impossible for him to fall in love with you.

You can say NO and still be loving and kind!

Next time you are in a situation where you feel angry, ground yourself by standing firmly (or having your feet on the floor if you are sitting).

Then lean back (onto your back foot if standing, or into the chair if you’re sitting). 

Let your arms fall to the sides and open the palms.

Take a deep breath and then say one of the following:

“I feel angry.”

“I don’t want to do that. 

“I don’t feel good about this. 

 Each time you practice standing up for yourself and making your needs known, your self-respect gets bigger – and the Law of Attraction delivers what you want faster!


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Love, Viona

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