Why Your Twin Flame Is Scared Of Commitment & How To Change It

If your Twin Flame has a problem with intimacy, this article is for you.

Let me guess. You are head over heels in love with your twin flame, but he won’t commit to a relationship with you. What makes this confusing as fuck is that he acts like a boyfriend. He spends time with you, texts you, and tells you all the nice things you love to hear. So why the fuck won’t he take that final step and give you that fullhearted commitment you know you deserve? 

If you are like most women on their twin flame journey, you stay loyal to this man. You don’t date others, and you hope he will step it up in time. You tell yourself he needs more time, and then you come up with justifications for this decision. Things like his ex cheated on him. He has trust issues. His job is stressful. He is depressed, and so forth and so on.

I know how fucking painful it is to feel a strong chemistry and transcendental connection with a man, only to hear him say he’s “confused” about what he feels, or he sees you as a “friend,” or he wants his freedom.

The truth is that most men WANT to be in a committed relationship.

But a true Twin Flame (a high-quality man in empowered masculine energy) will not give his heart to a woman he doesn’t feel safe with.

A woman who overanalyzes every emoji he sends, can’t enjoy the present moment, pushes for a commitment, overgives, has unrealistic expectations, and is constantly talking about him with friends and family or psychics, asking what he feels or thinks – is a woman he will run away from as fast as he can.

If this sounds like you, you are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. He isn’t afraid of a commitment. He’s afraid of a commitment with YOU.

Something in your vibe signals him that if he commits to you, he will lose his freedom – so he will fight for it.

He won't commit to a relationship. Should I give an Ultimatum?

No. A high-value woman never brings up the relationship talk first. You will just put more pressure on him and cause him to pull away more. Wanting to talk about the relationship 24/7 is you being in controlling, masculine energy. And you can't make a male twin flame commit to you by taking the male role. He is the one who asks you for a commitment. Not the other way around. Ultimatums don't work because words don't work on men. Actions are what they understand. It's what makes them feel. The biggest fucking mistake you are making right now is that you don't get the necessary high-value behaviors and attraction skills that are necessary for a man to commit. Talking less is the key here. Sadly most women on their spiritual journeys insist on having discussions over and over with their twin flames about where the relationship is going. Months and sometimes years pass, and they still discuss where the relationship is going. Ultimatums, talking, staying loyal, and giving more won't work when he doesn't commit to a relationship. Being high-value and unleashing your inner NO BS diva queen is far more likely to inspire a man to commit to you. 

So does this mean you will sit on your pretty ass waiting for him to make up his fucking mind like the good girl? Hell no! You take your healing seriously and work on your fear of losing him. The fear of rejection and abonnement is the one thing that will kill a twin flame relationship the fastest. Your fear is a stench of desperation. No sane masculine man will commit to an overthinking anxious woman who stalks his social media pages in her free time. 

Each of us has a "limit" to intimacy. You'll need to stretch those "limits" to manifest a loving, long-term relationship and a reunion with your twin flame. 

We are not attracted to what we want but to what feels familiar to us. Your relationship with your father and how much healing you are willing to invest in that relationship is the key to success with men. Most women fall for "bad boys" because they know it will never work out. When we are afraid of commitment, we attract partners who also fear commitment. Attracting toxic men means that some parts inside of you haven't been unconditionally loved and are screaming to be heard and seen.

Those parts of you will subconsciously block you from real intimacy and love and make you fall in love with men who can’t handle a real relationship, AND/OR make you behave in a pushy, needy way that makes it impossible for your twin flame to commit fully.

SHADOW WORK: 3 ways to heal yourself and shift your vibe so your twin flame feels inspired to commit:

▽ Step #1: Become Aware Of Your Limiting Beliefs

These are your inner “Love Images” about men, relationships, and you. These beliefs create situations that manifest on the outside.

Here are some examples:

“Relationships are hard work”

“All men are cheaters and liars”

“There are no good men left”

“There is something wrong with me”

▽ Step #2: Do Soul Parts Work

Once you know your limiting beliefs, you can do Soul Parts Work.

Soul Parts Work is to fully see and listen to the parts of you that are holding on to these beliefs. Sink into the uncomfortable feelings that hold on to the beliefs that you have. Truly feel the sadness, anger, disappointment, confusion, or whatever you are feeling. Accept the pain that comes up, and let it expand in your body. Feel it fully 100%. Don’t try to fix it, or change it. Just accept it. 

▽ Step #3: Open The Childhood Box And Heal

Ask yourself: “When was the first time I felt this feeling?” “Where did I learn this limited belief?” Journaling or meditating on these questions will open your Childhood Box and take you back to that memory where the limiting belief was created. Let your inner child tell her story and see what she has been trying to make you aware of for a long time.

No matter how fucking challenging a situation with a man may feel right now, I want you to ask yourself the following questions -

1. How can I CHOOSE to love myself in this situation? (Not loving him, but myself) Abandoning, blaming, or judging yourself is not attractive. It fucks up your vibe. On the other hand, loving yourself and honoring yourself in your relationship is sexy as fuck!

2. How can I respect and honor my feelings and deepest desires in this situation? And NOT falling into a man-pleasing mode, obligation mode, or ‘I love him’, and I will do what HE wants?

3. How can I speak my fucking truth with love and express my needs and desires without hurting or blaming, or emasculating this man in front of me?

4. What would my highest, most confident, and happiest future love diva self do in this situation? What do I really need right now (hint; its NEVER him you need)

This three-step process is a powerful way to show yourself, unconditional love. First, it heals the root of your unconscious manifestations, so you can stop attracting (and stop being ATTRACTED TO) men who mirror the parts of yourself that are uncommitted to YOU.

If he is your Twin Flame, he will feel much safer with you once YOU feel safe with you.

Your open heart is the key that inspires him to want to give you the commitment you fucking deserve.

Let me know how these three steps work for you!


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